I've known John for 20 years now. Since we started "dating" a month after we met, we have been a couple now for 20 years.
It truly seems like it was just yesterday that we met at college and I was calling my friend and saying "There's this guy. And he's so cute!" :)
We've been through so much together and I'm so very, very grateful that I have had him to go through all these difficult things with.
A friend of mine who has now been divorced for a few years asked me what we were doing over Memorial Day 2012 and I said going to visit my in-laws and getting family photos taken to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary. She asked, in all seriousness, "How do people stay married that long? Do they just put up with a lot of s&$t?"
After a bit of discussion, since I was truly puzzled by what she meant, it was revealed that her ex-husband was mentally, verbally and emotionally abusive to her and their children. She had put up with a lot that she never, ever should have and to put up with. And I told her so. I also told her that I told her that since I didn't know what it was like not to be happy in my marriage, I didn't know anything else, and it made it relatively easy to stay married..
It breaks my heart that so many people today do not know a good relationship from a bad one.
John and I have been really and truly blessed to have parents who have been married through thick and thin for "eons" now - my parents for 55 years and his parents for 41 years now. We have seen how to make a good marriage continue working through thick and thin. We have been so very blessed to never have been in abusive situations - physical or emotionally - nor have we watched our parents be in a relationship where that occurs.
I love John with all my heart - really and truly - far, far more than I did the day I married him.
He has such a servant heart.
He works so very hard.
He really cares about those around him.
He loves me.
He loves our children.
He loves the Lord.
|John making my coffee for me while we were camping.|
|Walking together with Buddy and Missy - hand in hand with the Buddy.|
|Preparing for worship at one of the churches this summer.|
We've been through so very much in these 15 years.
And truly, my marriage - all 15 years of it - is one of my favorite things.
Soli Deo Gloria.